I think this is an important message. Unless you have discussed specifically what means “no” with the intent to use “no” during a scene and continue through it, always check in when someone says “no”. That means stop what you’re doing and ask.
I, for one, don’t like to use the word “stop” during play. My partner(s) are aware that if I do slip the word “stop” during play, I’m approaching a limit and might safe-word if the intensity or action isn’t changed soon.
Always discuss what “no” and “stop” mean to your partner. If they do say “no,” your obligation is to take it seriously, stop, and check in with your partner unless otherwise specified..
Completely, and truly yours.Let me hear you say it, darling.
His pledge to her:
i will kill the spiders. i will share my fries with you when you’ve finished all yours and are still hungry. i won’t ever pop my collar. i will never be rude to your tummy- when i hear it growl and gurgle. i promise to bend down and reply respectfully. i will eat the mushrooms when we order the supreme pizza. i will kiss the papercuts. and the door-slammed finger, and the counter-bumped hip. i’ll try my hardest not to get annoyed when you whisper questions and comments during movies. i will be the big spoon. i will let you win at wrestling, sometimes. other times i will not. i will go faster. harder. i will pull when you want. and tease you when you don’t. i will send you random texts and leave you silly gifts. not always. not on schedule. just whenever i want to. whenever i think you need one. or seven. i will check your tire pressure. and remind you to take your car in. i will hold your hand. i will love you. i will love you. i will love you.
1. INTELLIGENCE. Give me a smart Dom any day over the Domly Lord Macho Man. The smart guy knows He doesn’t know it all and spends an inordinate amount of time continually learning to be a better Master.
2. PATIENCE. They’re methodical. They’re used to solving complex…
One of the single best compliments I ever received was just a couple weeks ago and it pertains to number 1. I stopped play to go and google safety information and she loved it. I will never forget that.
I Breathe For You …